About me – Michael Köllner

Thank you for your interest in touched to be – Tantra massage for men. I offer attentive touch in a protected setting with clear agreements. If this is your first time here: I know that taking this step takes courage. That’s why I work transparently and calmly – so that trust can grow.

My path

My life has rarely run straight. Illness, boundary experiences and long phases of self-inquiry have shaped me. I know pain, loss, shame, and also the moment when it becomes easier to breathe again. These experiences didn’t break me; they grounded me. Today, they help me accompany men with care – without judgment, without a mission, but with open eyes and heart.

Over the years I’ve explored many forms of body and awareness work: Tantra and Tao massage, Rolfing, osteopathy, dance, trauma work, and more. They all revealed the same core: the body does not lie; it is wise. It needs presence, attention and honest touch.

Masculine identity

I know how challenging it can be to develop one’s masculinity without getting lost in roles. Many men carry stories of restraint, pain, rejection or adaptation – so do I. But that’s exactly where freedom begins: when you learn to be not harder, but more truthful. For me, that means staying in contact with yourself and with others.

More about my path can be found on the page 'special people'.

Professional background

For more than thirty years I’ve worked in church and social fields. I studied social work and art education, built my own piano school, and accompanied people in many ways – musically, artistically, physically. This diversity is my foundation today. It gives my work depth, structure and grounding.

Bodywork

Over time I understood that bodywork is not just technique, but an attitude. It needs presence, clarity, respect, craftsmanship – and it changes us when practiced honestly. My own experience as a client in Tantra massage was decisive: attentive touch can set something in motion that words alone cannot reach. Passing on this experience has become my task.

I learned the craft with an outstanding teacher – Petra Hällfritzsch (open senses) – and from it I developed touched to be: a place for men who want to feel themselves again.

Approach

I work exclusively for and with men. Because I believe men need spaces among men where they can be real – without competition, without masks, without judgment, outside of roles. Here, touch can simply be touch: respectful, conscious, clearly guided. No one understands a man like a man.

Everything that happens in my practice remains confidential. I stand for discretion, attentiveness and an honest, dignified way of relating. If you have questions or want to feel whether this fits – feel free to get in touch.